Hi Nova

Have you spoken to your fiance about love languages? Lots of people show their love in different ways.

Some love languages include; words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, touch, quality time. I’m curious what your fiance’s love language is?

With my husband, initially I had some expectations from what I wanted at first regarding romance. Discussing love languages helped because had a chance to explain the different ways that he shows his love. Afterwards, I would pay attention through the day for the things he described as his love language. This helped me appreciate his style of love language.

What does intentional quality time look like for you?

It sounds like your fiance might experience some sexual dysfunction. Perhaps a doctor might be able to help? This is a very sensitive subject for men, but it is very common, even in young men.

It’s good that he has come around and is trying to please you now. I hope that he will continue to learn about this subject, perhaps it is something romantic that you could do together?

I do agree that it is a good idea to cultivate some of these feelings in yourself.

I hope you guys work things out. But I understand that these issues are very daunting. I would imagine that sometimes he feels more like a friend because of the chemistry issues.