Dear Sushmita:

“I feel I am too blown by emotions sometimes… at least I’ll be clear that this is not gonna happen even if I convince my parents as he never had it in him”- Clarity is what you need: it will calm your emotions and make it possible for you to direct your life rationally.

It reads to me that the guy is not very motivated to make a marriage take place. He is neutral: if your parents agree to a marriage- okay, if they don’t agree- that’s okay too. You (not him) are the one who is emotional and so very motivated to make a marriage happen.

But/and he has a valid point: your parents didn’t agree to the marriage so far and he knows that you are dependent on your parents, that he dependent from his parents (emotionally, ethically), so he knows that you need your respective parents’ agreement, and that your parents have strongly disagreed. So what is he to do?

anita