Dear aphroitte:

Previously (2021): “Yesterday we had a big fight… In those rare times we would go out, he would be mocking me… I’ve never attended holidays with him or properly celebrated without a fight… To sum up, we had fights about every date we were planning…he would say that I am always dramatic, we would fight for hours and hours and none of our fights are solved actually”,

Today, July 22, 2022: “With the friend with whom I can’t be together, we were still hooking up… he says is better to be just friends because I am fighting a lot, and later he says is because of my ex, we would never be together. In the meantime we would hang out… Today, as soon as I arrived they started making jokes about me, mocking me.. HE DOESN’T RESPECT Me… I don’t know if I am the ass**** that I am always complaining… What to do now? With my friend-lover, I am afraid of how to solve this relationship… I want to solve this in the most rational way and be cold, distant, and okay with him, but with setting boundaries and being respectful towards myself”-

– my thoughts today: you know how,  let’s say a piece of clothing is so dirty that it makes more sense to throw it away than to try to clean it? I think that it is the case here. It makes more sense that you throw away these two relationships than  try to fix any of them. The two men are not honorable, they indeed disrespect you and your behavior is not respect-worthy. The solution: (1) End any and all contact with both men, (2) Start anew, showing self-respect in all your behaviors, in all your interactions with people, every single day.

anita