Dear Lindsey:

Regarding “sun spots- dark“, I am sure that you know about concealer sticks, I use one for my sun spots. The concealing cream stays put into the next day, very effective. I find dim lights to also be very effective concealing imperfections: my easy way to clean the stove top is to turn the light on top of the stove off, works every time! You can use the Dim Light Strategy (DLS) with Jason… !

“I waited until she was away from the kids and went up to her stating ‘we need to talk’ as in talk at a later time and I was civil… (Jon) came over a few minutes later saying in an angry tone ‘I can’t believe you are making a scene, you are being so inappropriate, etc.’.. I struggled for days regarding this“- it makes me angry just reading this. I am not surprised that you struggled with it for days. You did the right thing keeping the kids out of it, but Jon did not. I am guessing that he is trying to please Amy, so he does what she wants him to do.

“In hindsight- I should have not said anything to them? However I wanted to put my foot down and say this is not OK“- you don’t want to be intimidated by Joh and Amy to the point that you settle into quiet submission to them. You have to be strong and not give in to their efforts to make you look bad. From your description of what happened, you didn’t look bad (meaning, you acted appropriately). They have an agenda to make you look bad. Stay strong, continue to be assertive and appropriate!

anita