Hi Stargazer!

Thank you for clarifying some of the difficulties that you are experiencing. It sounds like you have had and continue to experience some challenges in your life when it comes to family.

I can understand how that can cause relationship fears.

Regarding missing out… For me, I found that most men are bad at sex. As for relationships, good ones are very hard to find. You are very lucky to find someone that you are compatible with on so many levels so quickly. Do you feel like your relationship has been a refuge from your difficult family life?

I’m sorry that your life is being ruined by your parents divorce at the moment. It sounds like you are doing a lot to help your family get through this.

I think you are very deserving of support. Whilst anxiety might make you feel like everything could be ruined, earlier you said that he’d probably forgive you.

I can understand not wanting to cause your partner pain. But what are his views on honesty and respect? Did he tell you about what happened when he behaved inappropriately? Or did you find out from someone else?

Are you going through so much stress right now with the divorce that you feel that you can’t manage another thing going wrong?