Dear Eric:

“After several conversations with several ‘cool kids’ throughout the years, it isn’t as scary as I thought it was… I feel like I’m progressing throughout all the tips I get in this thread, and I’m thankful for that. Although the progress is really slow, at least there are some improvements“- congratulations for the progress that you are making. I appreciate every bit of it and I hope that you do too.

“The problem is that because I always feel safe not talking to people to avoid judgements, now I’m too lazy to talk to people… Do u think it’s due to the silent situation of my family?“- I think that outside your home, it has more to do with your fear of judgement than with anything else. Inside your home, it has to do with lack of practice: not being in the habit of talking within your silent family situation.

“Like there is a new maid at my house recently, and she… tries to talk to me a lot. But I’m too lazy to do that, because all this time I never have a small talk with my maids. Not because I’m arrogant, because I’ve always been this way“- lack of practice inside the home, I am guessing, like I mentioned right above.

“I really want to improve how this brain works“- it is possible for an adult to improve how his or her brain works. The scientific term for it is neuroplasticity.  It takes first believing that it is possible.

“How am I interesting? I’m curious. As I still feel that I’m a really boring person“- see, you feel that you are a boring person and I feel that you are an interesting person.

“Do u have a more frontal tips anita?” – what do you mean by frontal tips?

“Can anyone help me deal with jealousy?“- I am afraid not, I can’t help you to not feel jealous just as I can’t help you to not feel badly about your height. I wish I could but I don’t have that kind of power.

“I’m confused why I’m like this. Why do I have so much jealousy in me, when me myself have so much weaknesses“- because you want the strengths that you think others experience, don’t you?

-I will post another reply soon.

anita