Dear Quala:

You are welcome. If you want to have male friends, no need to ask your boyfriend for permission because (if I understand correctly) there was no agreement between the two of you to not have friends of the other gender, and he has been friends with girls (without your permission).

If you avoided having male friends because you thought that he will be uncomfortable with it- that was very considerate of him, but it would have been better if you asked him first if indeed he wouldn’t feel comfortable with you having male friends. Maybe you only thought that he will be uncomfortable.

If you had a male friend and you found out that your boyfriend was indeed uncomfortable with it, then you could have a conversation with him and consider solutions that will be fair to the two of you.

Did you ever tell him or express to him that you are uncomfortable with him having female friends, and if you did, how did he react?

anita