Hi Emma

It’s great news that you found a male therapist who specialises in trauma. Getting the right therapist and the right treatment is half the battle. It should be noted that there are many styles of therapy and a therapist may use more than one style. A patient can say if a specific style isn’t helpful. Personally, I found CBT to be too intense. When I discussed the issue my therapist was able to switch me to a different kind of therapy that was more suitable.

I hope your husband gives therapy a try and things improve for you both! You both deserve to be happy. I’m glad you gained some clarity and I wish you luck working on things. 🙏