Dear Caroline:

“he has been pretty aggressive and rude to people at work. I guess I need to learn to not freeze and to just respond right away. It will be difficult but I have to“- you can prepare for it by visualizing a scenario where he is aggressive and rude and you are responding in a way you’d like to respond.

I asked you: “what did you say or do that is dishonest? What is it that you don’t like about yourself lately?“, and you answered: “I do not think it is something I did, It is the feeling that they think we are friends… I feel like I will always be ‘his friend’ in their eyes…  I do not want to appear connected to him that much…  they still cannot get rid of the thinking of me as his friend… that is the main reason I get this weird feeling lately. Feeling guilty, dishonest“-

-did you feel growing up that you were stuck with a family you didn’t belong with..  and you were behaving like you belonged with your family, but you were faking it… and you felt guilty about faking it.. anything like that?

anita