Anita, yes I think you are right. It looks so simple how to analyze this in a heartbeat. How do you do it, if I may ask?

I meant to say  that this was a “success” that he learned his lesson, and all that I said to him made him no longer disrespect me. But I guess it is the same as you stated above. I felt happy that a rude person was nice to me, just as it was when I started working here – I saw right away he was being rude, using offensive language even at work to his coworkers and I was happy I was an exception, because we knew each other in the past, so he would not treat me like them.

I know you wrote recently (I re-read your posts yesterday) that what I said to him, it should be all about what I do, not about his reaction to it. And when I say that I am taking a break, I do it regardless of his view on this.