Dear shookie:

You are welcome. You’ve known him for about 40 years, ever since his youngest was a toddler, now 43… that’s a long, long time. You wrote in your original post: “I have told him I am not getting emotionally involved until he leaves the house“. When I read this sentence, I thought to myself that you are already emotionally involved, based on your short original post.

“He said they wouldn’t understand if he moved out“- a 2 year-old and a 4 year-old (combined: 6 years) wouldn’t understand that their parents are living apart.. but a 27 and a 47 year-old (combined: 74 years) should be able to understand: 74 years of life experience should account for some understanding!

(Unless the two adults are mentally challenged, living at home with their parents…?)

I am not involved in the situation but reading about it is enough to get me angry, so I understand how difficult this has been for you, and I understand you not wanting to be a part of this friendship+ situation anymore. I hope that you will be strong enough to do what’s right for you and not give in to him when he calls or texts you next.  Please feel free to post anytime you need to express yourself and get my input.

anita