Dear Greg:

You are welcome, as always. Here is the list of questions and answers (I will summarize/ rephrase some of the answers so that it is simpler for me to follow):

Q-1: Do our values align?     A-1:  Yes they do aligned:  1. We are both caring for, considerate of, and soft-hearted about other people. You care about other people’s needs over your own, sometimes to the extreme.  2. We are both intelligent but not arrogant. You are really smart. 3. We both have a sense of humor, which is severely lacking in our world, especially self-humor: making fun of oneself. 4. We are both good listeners. Even when we’re going through our own struggles and dilemmas, we’ll happily to stop and listen to each other. 5. We support other people and we are extremely loyal.

Q-2: Does our parenting rhyme or will it be full of conflicts?     A-2:  My answer is No. I’m not a fan of conflicts.

Q-3: Do you hold on to negative family/marital/parenting stereotypes?     A-3: At my age, I don’t run away from family affairs. If there’s any problem in the family, I take the initiative to solve it.

Q-4: Are you all talk but no action when it comes to the real deal in future?     A-4: I am optimistic about my ability to put my words into practice and demonstrate my promises through action.

Q-5: Can I rely on you to not change but instead uphold currently shared values?     A-5: As my wife, as the woman I choose to marry, you can absolutely rely on me!

Q-6:  Should I buy into the notion that all Sudanese men are not reliable, and I should just settle for an average home and family as he breaks every rule while I am supposed to stay faithful?     A-6:  Not all men are in the same ocean; neither are the girls. Personally, I’m serious about our relationship and I’m done with other women: I am settled with the woman I choose to marry.

Q-7: Are there negative aspects of his character that are currently hidden or that I have simply not identified well?     A-7: If I hide myself, you will be able to find out later, and time will tell.

Q-8: Do you know why everyone like me most?     A-8: I’m not superman, but I try to be a unique person: I am trustworthy. You can trust me not only with your future, but with your life! I am hard-working, self-reliant and confident in my abilities to succeed.

Q-9:  Do you know why everyone likes me and they want to stay with me?     A-9:  I’m always honest and always tell things how I sees them. There are only a few people who tell the truth no matter the consequences. I don’t color my words to make a person happy when it is not truth. I dislike lies so much that I sometimes quarrel with people who lie.  * Many families are breaking up today because of lies and cheating.  Lies are very sweet to hear but much more dangerous than truths, which are bitter but healing!

Also: I will always cling to you, not only as my wife, but as my best friend and brother. I’ll always choose to protect you from people who may want to waste your time and focus.

My comments: excellent answers (I like them all)  except for A-2 and A-7: you did not answer Q-2, and your answer to Q-7 is unsatisfactory. (The concern in Q-7 is that the man is hiding some negative aspects of himself, and the woman wants to know what these may be before the marriage).

“If I was a girl like you… I would fight you to own Gregory as mine alone bcoz I really don’t like telling lies to make a girl happy”- this is cute, Gregory.

Did you present her with questions too, the same questions perhaps… and who is currently taking care of your two children?

anita