Dear Mia:

Almost 6 years ago, on Dec 20, 2016, you wrote to me: “Anita yes I feel very childlike lately. Like a lost scared child inside“- and you still do,  “managing periods of depression/ anxiety at the moment“. A lost and scared child is also an angry child, crying out loud: WHY AM I ALONE? WHY ISN’T THERE ANYONE WITH ME, HELPING ME???!!!

It’s this angry child-inside that is hurting your boyfriend because she is still scared and alone… she needs help. On Nov 28 2017, you responded to my suggestion that you seek quality psychotherapy this way: “I went to counselling for about a year and a half. I found it helpful but stopped going because I felt like I was just going over the same problems and past hurt again and again… It is great having a counsellor but they aren’t a person in the real world like a  friend – they function in a separate space. I stopped going in April because wanted to build relationships in the ‘real world’ but have got nowhere“-

-well, you found a relationship in the real world a year and a half ago, the most loving you ever had… but you are still anxious, angry, still so very sad, and you are afraid to lose this special relationship because of your expressed anxiety and anger. Is it time now to seek quality psychotherapy, so to save your relationship and to help the lost, anxious, sad and angry child inside, as much as it is possible to help her?

anita