Dear Casey44,

there’s no way I’m going to have sex with him to ease his ‘tantrum

You’ve noticed it very well – it’s almost like he is restless and uses sex to “calm down”. There are such men (and I guess women too, but less frequently) who use sex for emotional regulation, without being aware of it. Specially men who aren’t in touch with their feelings, as it seems to be the case with your husband.

I find his practice of texting you to get ready for a “quickie”, in between his two meetings, rather degrading. This too seems like venting off stress via sex. Using you like a tool to meet his own needs, without taking into account your needs and your feelings.

It would be much healthier if he would come downstairs for a hug or a quick chat with you in the break between his meetings…

I am here to talk more if you feel like it…