Dear Eric:

On Oct 22, I posted this to you : “You are good-enough, you have what it takes to be loved, to be wanted, it is possible to like you (I do), and to love you. Believe me, Eric: a woman can like you and love you. I wish I could lead you to believe this.”

On Oct 25, 15 hours ago, you asked this question: “is it really possible for someone like me?”

I answered this exact answer 2-3 days earlier, see? But you don’t believe my answer. I am not surprised that you don’t. I think that if the girl you dated 3 times, if she told you that she likes you, you wouldn’t believe her either. Maybe for a short moment, you’d think: maybe she likes me..? But a moment later, you will be back to… it is impossible for someone to like me.

The belief that it is impossible to like you is a deep, core belief that has existed in you unchanged for way longer than a decade, so it is very difficult to change it. You’ve made progress in your thinking and behaving and I congratulated you for it. Thing is, Eric, to make more progress, you need professional help (I needed professional help and I finally received it in 2011-13). But you have refused the idea so far… so, how can I possibly help you further, Eric?

anita