Dear Julia:

The behaviors you described- as I understand it- are your ways to deal with anxiety at nights when you are not busy with, or distracted by your kids and husband: you remove your focus from the unpleasant experience of anxiety to the pleasure of eating sweets/ the excitement of watching a movie, etc.  These distractive behaviors became your habits aka addictive behaviors.

“I just don’t know how to change this addictive behaviour, how to stop“- it is difficult to change habits, but it’s possible.

“I don’t want to continue with this behaviour, can someone relate and maybe help? I want to set a good example for my kids and I can’t do this when I’m eating their snack in secret“- I admire you for wanting to set a good example for your kids in regard to the addictive behaviors that you want to change. Did you have past successful experiences with changing habits?

anita