It is disturbing about the age difference, and that’s why it took so long for me to see it. Honestly, I can’t do it on my own without a support system. In the last 5 years I’ve lost both parents, 2 grandmothers, and friends to death. Im pretty beat, and I just don’t want to try to do it alone. I’ve been really depressed, and I know I’m not ready to take on a newborn and 6 year old completely by myself. So I want to try everything possible to make this work. My boyfriend works, and has totally changed so that he can keep us as his family. I honestly believe if I can get the older friend to back off that I’d feel more secure. Doing that Is where I’m asking, “how?” I do not want to disrespect my elderly in anyway, but enough is enough. I just do not know the right way to go about this. Thank you for your perspective and guidance!