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Dear Lori:
“today is my birthday” (Oct 30)- I didn’t read it until just now, otherwise I would have wished you happy birthday yesterday, on time!
H a P p Y (belated) B i R t H d A y L o R i !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It is now (as I submit this) Monday 11 am my time, 2 pm your time. Heavily raining here, on and off (64% rain in the weather forecast), 1% rain where you are at (according to online forecast)?
“I got mostly all the paperwork for the meeting“- I wonder if you got all the paperwork ready before the meeting with the psychiatrist today (Monday), and I wonder if the meeting is over by the time you read this?
“sometimes I may be calm but I’m always in survival mode… But I just am really doing my darndest to keep controlling myself and using any mindfulness skills I can use to not let my feelings or anger affect him however“- this is major, that you are doing all you can to not affect your son negatively. You wrote earlier that you are taking medication, any of it supposed to alleviate anxiety?
“I can tell that you’re very intuitive and real. I actually look for those special qualities in a friend because I value… along with brutal honesty and I am a asshole sometimes I can admit that I am far from perfect I call myself perfectly imperfect!!“- thank you. I just smiled reading this: perfectly imperfect.. I like that!
“He had this one Dr who I almost attacked after he told my boy at the tender age of 7 that my kid was going to become a… loser, a truant, he’ll that he’s destined to fail!… Immediately I jumped over his desk and grabbed his tie, I mean, I lost it“- did he say what he said to your son in front of you (did you hear it?), and did you jump over his desk, etc. in front of your son?
“I saw him the following week and I caught him before he could escape inside his nasty stink office I whispered to him just because you’ve got a degree doesn’t make you intelligent and also it’s a very good thing I don’t smell booze on you and then he reacted immediately and shouted Security they came…. I’m just grateful I had standards and morals and values idk where they came from but I’ve always been kind.“- I think that this is the longest, run-on sentence I ever read, way over 200 words, and only 3 commas. What this tells me is that when you get emotional/ angry, you keep going and going… and going.
Was your son present during any of this?
Looking at the content of this world’s longest run-on sentence (in my experience), this is what you did: you whispered to that doctor: “just because you’ve got a degree doesn’t make you intelligent“- I agree. He then “Shouted security“, you told security that he was dangerous to people, like to your son, that he should be placed on leave, that he was drunk, and that if security does not use a breathalyzer on him, you will call the police.
Was this doctor present in the meeting with the psychiatrist, and if so, what was his part in the meeting (was security present)?
The last part of this longest sentence: “I’ve been had 57 different mental illness diagnoses from the DSM, really I was getting legally high I was bugging cause I didn’t care if I died did anything and everything man I’m just grateful I had standards and morals and values idk where they came from but I’ve always been kind.” – you are welcome to list the diagnoses that you believe still apply to you.
Thank you for your kind words, Lori. I hope to read from you soon, about the meeting, and how you and your son are doing.
anita