Dear Kaya:

Good morning to you! I am glad to read that you sent the email and that you feel much better for it. Regarding NPARR:  I did not invent the principles behind this acronym, only the acronym itself. It works for me in this way: when I feel distressed (an elevation of stress), instead of reacting any which way, I Notice (something is  bothering me, what is it? What am I feeling?), I then Pause (instead of saying anything or sending an online message to anyone, or..  obsessing about it), and instead I Address the situation: what really happened? Should I respond to it, or not? If I respond this way, will it be helpful or harmful?… Next, I Respond or not, and lastly, I Redirect my attention elsewhere.

anita