Dear anita

wow , one of therapist i worked with also diagnosed me with borderline personality disorder too . i studied about it asome how nd i learnt BPD is manageable actually unlike other personality disorder which are mostly so intrusive and unchangeable . i can see my improvement during recent years , i as like yourself need to pay attention to our pattern of behavior to not fall in old ones . as you mentioned in the first paragraph of your last post i used to think very highly of my parents , and my parents also thinking of themselves very highly , they were arrogant when i look back they were educated and smart and did far better that their peers study wise. when i realized than my mom was terminally ill this was truly a shock in so many level , i thought my parents could do everything , in my teenage mind , how couldnt do anything about my moms illness , that was devastating beside my biggest fear of losing my mom , i recently begin to forgive both of them , i dont say i hate them before but sometimes i saw them as villain. it applies to other people too ,people who kicked me when i was down , people who wronged me in some way . some of them that are no longer in my life and never try to undo their deeds are harder to forgive but easier to forget. but do i trust people who still in my life completely ?NO

i dont think thats prudent to trust anybody 100% but forgiving is possible , do you think not trusting people can prevent you from forgiving them ?