Dear anita

 a more important question is.. do we fall with them? i believe i did and it was hard at first but after a while that was liberating , i mean i found out that life is cruel .for some people can be easier and for some  is terribly cruel and im no exception . before that i felt that thing shouldnt happened to ME that was normal for somebody else , obviously i felt superior and that made everything much harder but when i realized im not special that made it  much more tolerable  , maybe its not related to our discussion but it was my experience , so i can say yes i fell with my parents from pedestal back then but i wasnt crushed actually im happier now   Equal in human value is a good place to be in.

by villain i meant bad people who do bad things on purpose , i sometimes think my dad was hurting me on purpose , but i admit he had grown up alot after my moms death , before that he was like a little boy with no responsibilities and was so angry that my mom was not able to support him (mentally and emotionally ) any more but he did take care of my mom till the end and he did his best to make everything go on as normal as possible . actually now that im writing about my father i realized how he actually changed and my mom`s death shook him really hard (i had never thought about it

and by forgiving and trusting , i mean with people who are in your life who hurt you in the past , but still are in your life and you want them to be in your life once you forgive them can you trust them again ? i think trust some step further than forgiveness

i know that`s a general question it really depends on that person and what happened in the past , for example people who repeatedly  try to put you down or cross your boundaries can be forgiven but not trusted

but people who did one mistake and try to somehow make up for that . do u trust them again ?