Dear Anita

in my opinion feeling superior actually means you deep down are insecure and feel inferior to others

i mean acting superior means you actually feel inferior , i could see it in others , because we can see others fault more easily but ive never met anyone anybody who acts  arrogant that is not insecure and dont feel bad about his life , this is a copping mechanism . as you said we can never be happy when see ourselves superior or inferior to others .

another problem i had that i think its stem was feeling superior or inferior was overvaluing people , i thought they are better than me and because of my situation of not having my mom around me some people tried to take advantage of it or try to mislead me intentionally , although i could see through them i didnt talk about it for a while and unfortunately i hung out with them until i finally had enough . im actually working on forgiving those kind of people not for them but for myself . i dont dream to hang out with them or see them .they are not trustworthy at all .