Dear Janus:

The resources you suggested are: (1) Dara Hoffman-fox videos “asking a gender therapist” on YouTube, (2) Call him hunter, a website,  (3)  Trans bodies, Trans selves, a book (by Laura Erikson-Scroth), (4) My New Gender Workbook by Kate Bornstein.

*I checked, a very organized website and Hunter, in the photo (if this is Hunter) resembles T! I will definitely tell T’s father about this website as well as the other resources and let you know of his response.

“Treating people and the environment kindly is a core aspect of sustainability“-I hope that this core aspect of sustainability will be taken seriously by people in positions of political power!

Back to gender identity, a bit of a travel back in time: you started your thread on Dec 30 2015 while you were in high school, using your birth name (a female name). For 2 years and 58 pages, you expressed body dysmorphia but not gender dysmorphia, nor feelings and thoughts regarding your gender identity (not that I recall). It was on page 59, on January 12, 2018 (you were in your first year of college at the time), that you mentioned the LGBTQ community.

On March 31, 2018 (page 59), you wrote: “The LGBT community at my college plays a big role in my life and I feel like I’ve found acceptance there…  Lately, I have been able to formulate words to describe who I am as a person.. and have gone to a therapist who has helped me understand my gender identity… I realize I am a nonbinary transmale and I experience gender dysphoria because my birth sex doesn’t match my gender identity“.

The day after, April 1, 2018 (still page 59), I addressed you as “Earth Angel” for the first time, and never again by your female name. On September 19, 2018 (page 62), at 19  and in your second year of college, you introduced your new name (“many of my teachers know about my gender identity and they have changed their attendance roster and refer to me by my preferred name: Janus“), and ever since, I used Janus when addressing you.

I was wondering (and been wondering for a while, but never asked you about it): how is it that before your first year in college (for 58 pages, two years), you never mentioned- as far as I can recall- any thoughts in regard to gender dysmorphia or gender identity (with or without these particular terms)?

anita