Dear Caroline:

You are welcome and thank you for your appreciation and kind words! I am fine, thank you, the weather here has been so pleasantly unusual for this time of the year: sunny, bright blue skies, it’s a mood elevator.

“I do not want to seem like I miss any of your valuable thoughts“- I used to expect perfection from myself: to respond to every single thing someone says to me (so that they don’t feel ignored and get angry), to word myself perfectly (so that…again, others will not get angry at me). This expectation brought me so much misery because I repeatedly failed to be perfect, and every failure felt like proof that I was indeed severely inadequate and inferior to others.

And all along, perfections has been impossible: impossible for me as well as for any other human being.

“Still thinking about myself as a fraud. I think I need time“- what kinds of thoughts in regard to being a fraud did you have lately, and in what circumstances, if I may ask?

“I feel less passive in general, though, more grounded. Learning to have my opinion, to be critical“- excellent, Caroline, you are doing well!

anita