Dear Andypandy499:

You are welcome. You write like a poet!

“I have tried to hate her but I cannot. I have tried to forget and move on but she is still here, in my head when I walk down the road. It’s like a ghost of her appears next to me at places we have been, and that time replays in my head“-

-you want to be with her but you can’t because she is living with another man in Australia. The closest you can get to being with her is to remember and imagine being with her. It’s a make-believe way to deal with the fact that she is now lost to you. Here is what I suggest: when you find yourself remembering and imagining, don’t try to delete the images (to stop the memories and images), and don’t try to hate her or forget her. Instead (do this bit by bit because it’s painful): add to your images the images of the current reality: her living elsewhere with another man.  This way, your brain will no longer trick you into thinking that you are still- in some way- together with her.

Like I said, bit by bit. What do you think/ feel?

anita