Re-posting:

Dear humour:

On Nov 24, 2022, you wrote: “Actually my mother…  has always been strong and supportive“, but the next day, you wrote: “I did not have any communication with my mother growing up. She used to be very busy. Its only since a few years we talk to each other“- being that you are now in your later 30s, it means that all through your childhood, as well as throughout your adolescence, your 20s…and into your 30s, your mother and you did not talk to each other.

Therefore, I figure that she was “always strong and supportive” as far as working and being financially supportive (maybe she worked in another city or country and did not live with you..?), but with no communication between the two of you, you did not receive any emotional support from her whatsoever- for more than 30 years of your life. Perhaps there was no one to hold you when you were growing up, no affectionate physical touch…?

More than 6 years ago, on July 21, 2016, you wrote: “I am finding it hard to concentrate at work because of some personal issues/confusions“. On Jan 14-15, 2017, you wrote: “I do get stress headaches most of the time… for the last 4 years I’ve been depressed… I am in my early 30s. I feel like I am 60. Feeling helpless, confused…I am so confused”, on June 2-26, 2017, you wrote: “I am so confused, scared, worried.. Too much stress and sad memories overall“, and recently, on Nov 8, 2022, you wrote: “I can’t remember the past too well (or maybe subconsciously I choose to forget it – similar to disassociation I guess)”-

– it seems to me that you have suffered from a whole lot of stress for a long, long time, which led to your concentration difficulties, lots of confusion, stress headaches, depression and poor memory.

It is well-known that skin-to-skin touch is vital for babies’ and young children’s development. There are studies that show that children who grow up in orphanages, children who were rarely touched, produced higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol. I wonder if you grew up without a mother, and/ or without adequate physical touch, as well as without adequate emotional support…?

anita