Dear Katrine,

continuing to anita’s post, I did find it strange when you first mentioned (recently) that your sister was angry with you because you couldn’t go to her son’s Christening. I thought to myself – wow, she (your sister) has a child and a partner? I too had the impression that she was living at home with your parents, and wasn’t able to function on her own. But then I told myself that maybe her condition improved in the last 2 years and she found a partner, became pregnant etc. And that she is using her tantrums to manipulate you and your parents to get what she wants.

In Sept 2020, she was still dependent on your parents’ help for day-to-day functioning. After the tantrum she had, when she was rolling on the floor and pulling her hair, and when your mother broke down, you said that it was your father who took over the care of your sister: He is now in charge of dealing with my sister, so to leave me and my mom out of it.

Which tells me that 2 years ago she was still dependent on your parents. Was it that soon after that she met her boyfriend and sort of pulled herself together, maybe moved out of your parents’ home and started a life on her own, with her new boyfriend?