Dear Farnaz:

Having just read your recent post, I found myself smiling for the first time this morning. My computer screen is held together temporarily by clips and my keyboard is acting out (the letter M is difficult to type… every single time). But I am glad to be able to do what I normally do every morning.

“First the heart doctor guy whom you called heartless heart doctor, lol, very well put“- thank you for lol-ing my pun (I am challenged when it comes to coming up with puns and jokes, and with understanding others’ puns and jokes).

“I agree with you, he was so tired and overwhelmed with problems to care about anything but his own benefits… yes, it was a very unfortunate experience with a very bad person at a very bad time“- good people are fair and kind (fair and at least not abusive) with others no matter how they feel, even when sick, tired and/ or depressed; bad people are fair and kind to others only when they feel good, or particularly good. I am thinking about the nights at work when you had good discussions with him.. when he treated you like a valuable human being.. he was probably feeling good at that time, relaxed. Then in the morning, gone was his good feeling.

“I’m sure he would discard me in much worse way if he got what he wanted“- when a man uses a woman as a sexual object, he discards the object when he is done with it… much like the discarding of a paper plate after eating from it. If he has options (a stack of new paper plates), he wants the next meal on a new plate. These men consider a wife to be something like a ceramic plate to use in front of guests (society), but when guests are away, it’s left dirty in the sink .. and when out and about, away from home, they still use paper plates.

“but I’ glad I wasn’t that broken to put up with his demands“- that’s what I thought when I first read the story: I was impressed by your strength and spunk (courage and determination).

“He reminds me of my stepmother, she also had a hard life and had this mentality about people who didn’t as bad people who owe her“- jealous of/ angry at other people who (she perceives) to have a better life than hers.

“She does lots of unforgivable things to people she knows, the one who had been nice and generous to her and expect them to forgive her after she screw them over. She also only thinks about herself“- she expresses her anger at others, then feeling temporarily relieved of her anger, she is ready to resume the relationship on good terms.. until the next time when her jealousy and anger build up.

“She…  considers others, especially other women as subhuman“- lots of women consider other women as subhuman, in line with how many men think. Lots of people of a particular ethnicity or race, etc.,  consider other people of the same ethnicity or race as subhuman, in line with .. how the people of the alleged superior ethnicity or race think.

“About money and having no character, well, I don’t think having money helps this kind of people to be better, it usually makes them worse, if that’s even possible“- it is possible when they use their money to hurt more people.

“I just worry for his patients“- hopefully he worries about his professional reputation being hurt if patients in his care get worse or die unnecessarily. Hopefully, he takes seriously the principle of nonmaleficence (“The principle of nonmaleficence directs physicians to ‘do no harm’ to patients. Physicians must refrain from providing ineffective treatments or acting with malice toward patients”, pallipedia, org).

“About Amir Nasr Azadani, unfortunately, I can’t say if it is his end or not, I certainly hope not. In Iran these days, the big football players are very active in encouraging people to protest and they are successful because (the) young population look up to them“- a good man/ good people use their power (popularity and fame, in this case) to help and benefit others. I sure hope that Amir Nasr Azadani is or will be okay soon!

“I think maybe the regime is trying to scare them by putting Amir in prison, and threatening to execute him, or they may actually execute him to make an example of him, so others wouldn’t talk against the government, nothing is impossible in my country with current government“- the government has a problem, as I see it: they want to execute him so to scare young people into submission; on the other hand, executing him might make young people more angry than scared, and angrier, they may protest more.

anita