Dear Katrine Nielsen:

I studied your threads for hours in the last few days, and this is what I understand today: the core issue between you and your sister is a serious case of sibling rivalry. There is and has been lots of hurt, anger and jealousy between the two of you for a long, long time.

Seems to me that she indeed suffered brain injury that resulted in cognitive, emotional and physical (ex., migraines) symptoms, but you (and I and.. all of the millions of people worldwide who fit the C-PTSD diagnosis, which you received last October) also suffer from brain injuries: It is not only physical causes (such as falls and viruses) that are responsible for brain damage/ injury, but also emotional causes (see National Library of Medicine/ Emotional Traumatic Brain Injury, Dec 2020).

In your most recent post, you wrote in regard to your sister: “I kept telling people how close we were, but didn’t realise that I was just catering to her every need instead of having a balance healthy relationship“-

– I wish that you did have a close and healthy relationship with your sister: it would have been wonderful to grow up close to your only sibling, to help each other withstand the common challenges you faced, the traumas… It is togetherness/ emotional closeness that minimizes brain damage and promotes healing. Question is, how can you get a togetherness/ emotional closeness now.. and with whom…?

anita