Dear Anita,

Thank you very much for the reply. I feel so uneasy when I’m around her knowing that I don’t like her, and still make an effort to do so because I love my boyfriend and want him to be happy.

I am very happy that it’s not so much about me as about her own behaviour. The only thing I can do is spend less time with her, but encourage my boyfriend do spend time with her alone if he wants to. I just hope that when we have children my boyfriend won’t insist about leaving the kids alone with his mother. I found  that when I bring his mother’s behaviour up my boyfriend defends her(I only said that I don’t think she likes me very much considering what she said about his cousin’s girlfriend behind her back versus what she said to her face), but there are times when he by himself sais that she sais hurtful things, drinks a lot, is always late…

Thank you very much for bringing peace of mind to me.