Dear anita,

Here i am replying to your previous threads:

you overlooked the fact that your girlfriend told her aunt that she is close to you and therefore, she is not interested in another guy, and you overlooked the fact that her aunt accepted it. This means that the guy you are concerned with is not relevant. But you reacted as if he is relevant and you are competing with a guy… who is not relevant. You are complicating a situation that is not complicated, creating drama where there is no need for any. Your thinking and behaving here is not intelligent.

= yes, but the fact is that the aunt have given that girl’s phone number and that boy could text her anytime… the aunt wouldnt tell that boy that she is close to me now…

Is your opinion still the same? Im complicating situations when there isnt any?

wrong! There are guys who will feel pleasure (not pain) when a girl who has options (other guys showing interest) is interested in them, and not in the other guys.

= yes i’d feel happy if she choose me when she has options, but right now she didnt give me as much attention as she used to…. And that‘s what worries me, it could lead up to any possibilities…

you worry so much that she will break up with you for irrelevant reasons (such as her aunt having mentioned another guy), but you overlook possible relevant reasons for her to break up with you, such as you asking her again and again about a guy who is not relevant to her life. She may get tired of this unintelligent question.

= yes i have think about it, not to annoy her with those kind of questions repeatedly, but isnt relationship about communication? Like we should talk about things that is related to both of us right?

handle your situation intelligently, and stop creating pressures that would not be there if you didn’t create them. An example of a pressure that you created for yourself is the guy that her aunt mentioned: her aunt already accepted that her niece is close to you, and therefore the guy is late. So.. let the guy go: there is no other guy in your girlfriend’s mind: you are the guy!

= Thank you anita for trying to reassure me that im the guy in her mind….

Regarding her aunt, idk if she has accepted that she is close to me, she just told that girl “ahh he’s too late” … i hope she accepts it…

She used to text and send me pics what she’s doing right now, where she was… but she never do that again… just answering my texts without asking me…. And i need to ask her “what she’s doing right now” then she’ll tell me…. If i didnt ask she wont tell….