Dear miyoid:

Thank you! I am sorry to read about your rental situation, this is depressing! The rental/ housing situation is depressing in many countries nowadays… and landlords’ greed takes over.

“When I was about 6-8 years old, I was constantly crying and depressed… When I told this story, which I only told you, and now him, not even the psychiatrist I saw since I couldn’t handle it, he hugged, tried to comfort me but nothing else…  I felt so alone, meaning he wasn’t that much of a support. I actually wanted him to say stuff like, ‘you can always move in with me’, ‘we’ll do it together’…  2-3 days later.. he supported and said, ‘if it all comes to there and we cannot find a solution, you’ll move in to my house.‘ I was relieved, and then I moved on thinking about solutions with a more calm mind… I am so dependent on his emotional support, and words”-

-what a story: as I read it, I myself felt relief when he said what I boldfaced above! Maybe at first when you cried, he didn’t say anything to you because he is in the responsible habit of thinking before he says anything; in which case, you can trust him to follow his words with action, when his actions are needed.

Try to not be so scared about your dependence on him. We are all dependent, really, simply because by nature, we are social animals. The very nature of social animals is to depend on each other. He depends on you too!

I hope your lips heal soon: 4 cold sores are… 4 too many! (I had cold sores since I was a teenager.. they get much better over time: smaller and less frequent).

anita