Dear Natie

I appreciated Anita for the consistency of advices she have really given you for free. Mistakes are in every corner and when it come and go it open up your eyes and give you a wise decision in the next mistake.

A mistake that makes you humble is better than an achievement that make arrogant.
I hope have studied the content of your relationship that went South…. of we were in the same boat.  I was in such relationship before but Anita tried so hardly to stand with me.  You have known the roots cause already.

When you  know the content very well, you  have the key to open the door of all the listeners and learners who have open minds. This is the “logo”. Logos is the way into the hearts of someone with an open mind. Logos is about credibility. However, Logos is not just facts, it is about presenting them logically.  It is about stating facts, then connecting how they are related to other facts and then making a conclusion. Again

“Everybody you attracted to you ain’t compatible with. Because it look good to you don’t mean it’s going to be good to you”

How would you fight fair in your next  marriage? Of course you have learned already.
Let  learn each other’s buttons and let  know when to back off and cool off in another room.

We don’t let our  voices go about volume 5 in any argument.
we don’t  need to call each other names, we don’t need to  talk about each other’s families during our  arguments.

We don’t bring up what has been resolved in a past argument.

We shouldn’t let the last words ourselves hear to  something regrettable and hurtful (before we  leave the house or got to bed)
Words are hard to take back and the silent treatment isn’t good.

Qn.2 Biggest mistake before marriage?

Know how to find common ground. Not offering a full disclosure.
Before marriage, put everything on the table.
No secrets I have hide from you.
Let them know you are credit report!
Remember when you are dating someone…you’re dating their representative (the perfect, well-behaved version of them).
“Everyone you are attracted to you ain’t always someone you’re compatible with.”

Regards.

Gregory.