Dear Riri:

You are very welcome. The question you asked in the title of your thread is: Family is always good? My answer: no. In your original post, you asked: “Am I such a bad person?” My answer is: no,  you are not a bad person at all for accurately recognizing that a member of your family is bad, aka toxic. I made such an recognition in the context of my own family, and as a result, I chose to no longer be in contact with that person, a choice I made and kept for close to 10 years.

I hope that you feel comfortable, Riri, to post again anytime you need my input. My best wishes for you in this new year!

anita