Dear Victoria:

“After x amount of time, it could be a year or two or even in some instances four years, I start to notice their flaws“- reading this leads me to think that if their flaws were big, you would have noticed their flaws way earlier than 1-4 years.

“The problem is that this always happens. I always tend to get annoyed with friends and it feels like all of my friendships are a ticking time bomb“- I wonder if at first, you put your friends on a pedestal, but later, every once in a while, perhaps, they fall off from their pedestal, and you start feeling very distressed by relatively minor flaws. Any truth to my thinking?

anita