Dear Swanky:

These things make good sense to me: “I need the amicable relationship“, “I’d respond to the side hugs if she gives it, but I ain’t pecking or hugging her ever again“, and “I will excuse myself politely like you said earlier and rinse my face with water to cool off“. In regard to not initiating an honest and direct conversation with her- that’s fine, for now. But as time progresses, if things will get too difficult for you, it may be a good idea- at that time in the future-  to initiate such a conversation with her.

“She has once told me she reads minds and understands human psychology“- if this is true, she could, if she wanted, initiate such a conversation herself… so to help you out, to make life easier for you.  What do you think?

anita