Dear EvFran:

You are very welcome, it’s a pleasure to communicate with a person as sensible and gracious as you! It is also a pleasure to read the supportive replies you received from others, here on your thread.

“in my brain there’s still the question : why is it happening to me? Why can’t I have that supportive, communicative circle of friends where we all support each other, make each other laugh“- I wish we all had that supportive circle of friends, supporting each other. I wish all of humanity was a global supportive circle of friends.

Maybe this thread, your own thread, can be a place of friends coming together to support each other. And then, maybe in real-life, you can have the same.

“The other friend used to say how much she loved me, I could stay at hers any time I was in town, we could set up our business together, she admires me. And one day, out of the blue,  she wrote to me that I could remove my stuff from her flat… She put out everything to the street in front of the house… It happened 6 years ago and I am still wondering why. I found it very rude and unbelievable. Why do you say you love a person and then you do this?“-

– here is a possibility, and it’s only a possibility (I like to come up with possibilities for human behavior): she admired you, looked up to you, had you on a pedestal, then something happened in her mind, and.. in her mind, you fell off that pedestal. It could have been something that objectively was a small issue, or no issue at all,  but subjectively, it triggered some very big and negative experience in her life, and she reacted harshly. Could it be?

anita