Hi Norit

I’m deeply sorry for your father’s passing, as well as for the situation you and your brother are in with your mother. It is very tricky indeed.

Realistically, what can you both do but try and help support each other through this? Your mother will not live forever. What alternative is there? She will have no quality of life left to her own devices.

It’s going to be important for you both to schedule time for yourselves outside of any caring responsibilities.

It’s unfortunately that planning how to deal with all of these changes in responsibilities is interfering with your grieving process.

It’s understandable not to want to be thrown back into this deeply unpleasant situation but sometimes we have to do things that we don’t want to do simply because it is the right thing to do.