Hi Eric

These worries are simply a different presentation   of the same worry that you’ve had throughout the relationship. Insecurity that she will leave you because you don’t feel good enough.

You have a habit of finding new problems to worry about in this way.

Another way to think about this from a psychological perspective is that humans are creatures of habit. We gravitate towards what is normal for us. What has been normal for you is high levels of anxiety and your worries jumping from topic to topic, always concerned that you aren’t good enough in some way.

It takes time to change your base line for what is normal for you. It’s a question of how would you like to feel? And taking steps to build up some good healthy habits.

Please practice your favourite self-soothing techniques. It will get easier in time as you really get into a habit of it.

Thoughts are just habits and new healthier thoughts and habits can be nurtured.