Dear Katrine,

oh my God – that was a week from hell! You mentioned fatal stabbing – does it mean the guest stabbed your manager to death??

Good that you weren’t around when it happened, but nevertheless that was a horrible shock!

Three male collegues of mine are under investigation (by the company I work for) two for inapropiatly behaviour of sexual nature, I had to to give a statement too, and one for abusing behaviour with the kitchen staff, like making people cry (two quit on the same day9 and even biting staff

Is the “cute guy” among those under investigation? (I hope not!)

You said the guy who said he wanted to date you is a chef, so I guess a part of the kitchen stuff. Has he been among those who got abused?

Yes your right. I just took it as a push them away for months and the right one will of course keep fighting for me and not let it stop them.

Right… you thought if they’re interested, they will keep trying. But if you don’t give them any encouragement, or any sign that you might be interested, they do get tired after a while…

I’m trying to do exposure therapy with that guy. Just a little bit. Like the other day I was having a coffee before my shift started and he came in to make himself a take away tea before going out to the park to read, but pulled out a chair and sat next to me. He didn’t really say anything and so my anxiety wanted me to just be scolling on my phone ignoring him and trying to distract myself but I choose to smalltalk instead asking him about his book. So a small thing but I didn’t let my anxiety win so I’m happy about that.

Are you talking about the “cute guy”? You did exposure therapy with him, right?

It’s still hard for me to wrap my head around because it came out of nowwhere and he never gave me any signals. He knows about the situation about the other guy, found out some months after we started working together. He’s really sweet, I can talk with him about anything. He’s very atractive and we have been spending quite a lot of time together. Maybe something will happen.

So when he told you he wants to date you, what did you say? Has he tried to ask you out since?

She is a clinical hypnotherapist and a NLP master practitioner, but based on the price and given the fact that all the therapy I have had didn’t really help I am not sure if this will help.

How much therapy did you have since you’ve been diagnosed with C-PTSD? I think it would be important that you choose someone who knows how to work with childhood trauma. Perhaps it could be the therapist who diagnosed you with C-PTSD?