Hi Tee

Thank you for your feedback!

I am aware that this is a public forum, and there is a risk of cyber bullying, as well as the risk of members replying to the original poster (me in this case) angrily, impatiently, inattentively, and/or dismissing the OP’s abilities and successes and focusing on the OP’s inabilities and failures, sometimes insisting on the latter.

This quote from Anita on the School Bullying thread is her reference to our argument. This was the reason I spoke to her on that thread.

I didn’t accept her apology related to the misunderstanding because it didn’t make sense to me. She basically said that she found my experiences so shocking they didn’t seem real. But at the same time she didn’t disbelieve me. As I’ve said before, I take things quite literally. It’s not the first time I’ve had a disagreement based around understanding of language. Your explanation was very detailed and broke down things more. I found that helpful in understanding Anita’s reasoning.

For me, the mutual apology situation didn’t work out because I was ignored before the apology and I was ignored after the apology. In my mind, you don’t ignore people that you’ve forgiven.

I guess I just have a different perspective. I don’t see anxiety as something to be ashamed of. I noticed some patterns of avoidance and the only way to overcome avoidance is to face those feelings. I can be blunt sometimes and I can see how what I said can be interpreted as unkind or not supportive. I did understand why Anita was upset though. I wasn’t aware that Anita had difficulties related to personal posts. If she had shared that I would have taken a more gentle approach.

To be honest, I don’t see either Anita or myself being upset by any of those things as being too sensitive. I think it’s human and understandable to be upset at times. Do we get more upset than people who don’t have PTSD, sure. I don’t really see it as a problem though. It is a part of life. Usually, people communicate when they’re upset, there’s an apology and things move on.

Your feedback is always welcome Tee. Please feel free to share whatever you wish! I’m curious to hear more about your thoughts. 🙏

I think the only other thing I would add is that. I spoke to Anita for a while before the initial disagreement. She was very kind and helpful. I looked up to her a lot and saw her as a friend and equal. When trust is broken I have a hard time recovering from it. I have difficulty trusting people in general.