Dear Katrine,

Only now that someone spoke up, she is also being harassed by my manager.

Oh wow – the person who reported the head chef is now being harassed by your manager? Do you mean the top manager, who is friends with the head chef? Or your immediate manager (who was punched in the face recently)?

I can still get mad at him for the way he’s acting.

Yeah I can imagine, because it is annoying… However, I am thinking that it might be easier for you if you actually accept that he is like that – awkward and unable/unwilling to talk to you (actually I am not sure how to characterize him, so this is best I’ve got). But anyway, I think it might help to accept that he is like that and to stop expecting a different behavior from him.

I don’t necessarily want to compare him to your sister, but with her, the best “cure” is to stop expecting a different (kinder, less selfish) behavior from her. If you know what you’re dealing with, it’s easier to prepare and get through it. So I am thinking that perhaps if you stop expecting him to be different, it might actually help?

We are gonna plan to go out and do something when our schedule allow it and I’m really looking forward to it.

I am so glad!

I will continue to look for a therapist and I will finish reading the book Pete Walkers book about Complex PTSD.

Great! Pete Walker’s book is on my list too…