Dear Tee,

Thank you again for taking time to help me with that dilemma.

I red your reply with a great pleasure. You have such an amazing way of explaining even the most confusing aspects. At the same time, I can feel that it is filled with compassion and understanding 🌷

Yes, it all makes sense to me now. I’m someone who believes in giving second chances but I feel that sometimes I give too much. I felt sorry for this last man as divorce is never easy. Also I could not understand why he did not want to keep in touch and see how things will progress? It was his way or no way at all. He told me that he needs the closness and even only a kiss would be fine for him to feel better. He got a hug instead and this was not enough for him on a first date. Some of the dating advices (and woman I know too) say that NOT kissing a man on a 1 date is a very bad thing and most man will not want to see you again (even if you hug him or say that it is too fast). Is that true Tee?Does it apply to separated men too? And shall we always accept it and if not, how to refuse it to not hurt his feelings?

Also when is the best moment to mention marriage and how to say it?

There was one more thing I was trying to figure out and forgot to mention to you.

I could understand that he did not want to meet me in public as they could accuse him of adultery etc.. and he could pay more in divorce. The thing I did not understand is why he did not park in his building’s parking but 2 streets away and had to walk all the way back?

To answer your question, the problem is that I am always trying to see the good in a person and find the excuses for their behaviour. Maybe deep down I am afraid of a rejection. I suffered a lot of emotional pain in my childhood and same pain came back as I started dating men (which was really late, in my 30’s). My dadd was mostly cold and absent from my life but I never wanted to blame parents for my difficult dating experience.

I avoided dating for a very long time. I really lost my trust. So I only kept men who were willing to remain platonic. I’m guessing it was a way of protecting my heart. Then I opened it again and got painfully disappointed again. I really lost my trust.

And here I am today with another hurtful experience 💔

I’m grateful that there is still people like you Tee. Thank you for being here 💝