Dear EvFran,

you’re most welcome!

Today they set a deadline by when he has to move out of the flat, sell his car in order to pay for the stupidity he had done and find a job or continue university. He said ok.

Sounds good. It seems they are on it, doing what needs to be done, setting some boundaries. I hope it will work!

As I travel a lot and he found me ‘cool’ at the bday party, my friend’s sister hopes that I can talk to him and maybe have a good ‘influence’ on him or convince him to get his stuff together. But I’d rather agree with you. If he doesn’t want to change, even God would be unable to make him change.

Yeah, since you only met him once, very recently, I don’t think it would make any difference. But who knows, maybe you can talk to him about other things, e.g. the parts of your life that he finds cool. Not really pressuring him or trying to preach, but just sharing your story perhaps? But I think it would need to be in another relaxed setting, say on a party, so that he doesn’t feel pressured into talking with you. I would keep it very light and no pressure…. and only if he shows interest.

Additionally, I don’t have kids myself, so I might not be the right person to give advice

Well, you’ve got your coolness 🙂 As I said above, if there is a chance to meet again in a relaxed setting, then perhaps you could nonchalantly approach him and have a chat. But I wouldn’t force anything, and wouldn’t make it a “mission” of mine to save him. You are doing enough already…