Hi Tom

Our values are dependent on our beliefs. Everyone has different ones! Everyone has difficulties. Some have difficulties with time keeping. You’ve noted that you have difficulties with patience and compassion.

If you’ve repeatedly talked to someone about an issue and they haven’t resolved it, it might just be a matter of accepting who they are.

For my sister, if she says that she will be ready at a time. I know my sister. She’s got difficulties with time keeping. I figure that she will be an hour or two late. Expecting that she will be late and planning for that means that I don’t have to wait around for her.

Are there any specific thoughts or feelings that come up when people don’t meet your principles? Sometimes people can feel that others don’t value their time for example if they’re consistently late.

Self-soothing is an important skill when other people upset us because honestly, we all have to deal with inconveniences at times caused by others.