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Dear Tee,
How are you doing these days?
You’ve been so helpful again! I really like your suggestions for the vision of a dream man and also the example text you created 🙏🪷
Tee, you were right about this last man. Unfortunately, it got even worst than I expected. I’ve sent him the text 3 days ago and till now he did not reply at all! (left me on seen).
I can’t believe it. I’m not even worth a simple reply. All the promises written in the sand. I was so wrong about him. I thought he is suffering after his divorce and needs time. Now I can see that he has not even the smallest decency to be a man and reply.
My friend suggested to give him a final call in few days to have a closure but I’m not sure if asking for reasons over the phone is a good idea? Also meeting him at his workplace might seem like too much.
Also, my friend found his profile on the dating site so I guess he is busy with other women. I believe that they are more easy going & carefree than me so it makes him more interested 🤷
He told me that he is not looking for anything serious but on the webpage it says that he is not sure yet. Might be a way to attract more women?
Maybe the sexual compatibility is more important to him than getting to know someone as a person first. Maybe that’s how the relationships start nowadays and I was not aware of it.
Tee, how is it that some women go easily for casual sex and it turns into a committed relationship? And women who wait with sex are ghosted in the end?
Is there any way to know when is the best moment to start being physical with a man (and avoid being ghosted)? Some coaches say that it is not about sex on the 1 or 2 date but the emotional attraction you created before it happened. But how is it that those women create the bond so fast?
It is all a big mystery to me…
I regret that I let him be more than a friend. I was hoping that it might change something between us but it didn’t.
I guess we never know until we try but then it hurts too much 💔
Thank you for listening Tee and your understanding 🌷💖🙏
Looking forward to hearing from you soon.
Have a good night 🌙
Big hug 🫂
Dafne