Anita, I wanted to elaborate this point a bit, I hope my disorganization isn’t too confusing.

” you are re-experiencing what happened with your father in the context of your partner: angry (wanting to criticize) with (your father=> your partner) for making those inappropriate, unreasonable and distressing demands from you (to be hyper aware etc.). “

This makes a lot of sense. Are these demands that are distressing to me, made up in my mind as part of the trauma response?