Dear Danielle:

“If you have any ideas, I am all ears to try them! He is kind, but he is a stubborn person, as well. (as we all can be) so I don’t want to push and it blow up in my face”-

In your original post, you wrote:  “My boyfriend and I have a very different way of dealing with problems. I face them head on, and he funnels them down until they eventually boil over – often times rather chaotically.. every single day, he brings this home with him and in some way, takes it out on me“-

– Make a rule: every single day when he gets home from work, he has to take a hot (or cold) shower- before or after he eats-  and lie down for 20 minutes, listening to his choice of calming music. If you are home/ when you get home, add a relaxing massage to this 20-minute practice while work stuff is NOT discussed at all.

anita