Dear DC:

You are welcome and thank you for your continued kindness and grace.

“For my mental health particularly given that she has now passed, it is best for me not to dwell on or resurrect the negatives any longer“- understood, accepted and respected.

“I understand where you are coming from re your own mother… However you have found strength within yourself and courageously forged your own path Anita. That process must have been character-forming, enabling you to be the wonderful lady you are, with the knowledge and heart to assist others. All that pain therefore has not been in vain. You are commendably living a life beyond yourself through supporting others!“- thank you so much for this.

“I have, and encourage everyone, to let go of any grudge or resentment however difficult that may be. It took me a while…a long while actually! When my mother passed, the futility of it was clear for me. As the Buddhists aptly say: ‘Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.‘… With my mother, I saw her cremated. She was burnt and reduced to ashes.  Nothing more to feel or say. It is final. As I said Anita, death is grounding for everyone!“-

– I copied your words right above so to repeat your message for anyone who may be reading.

It crossed my mind earlier: what a great advocate you can be for people who suffer from any one particular injustice, perhaps empowering women with your unique, special mix of courage, intelligence and grace.

Repeating your words from Sept 2021: “I simply cannot ‘unsee’ things that I see…I continually go out of my way to see that perpetrators do not get away with misdeeds“- inspiring words, inspiring spirit!

anita