” I did tell a few white little lies today for self preservation and telling customers their order would be with them next week when I know it will be the week after. Again, que the inner critic.”

Could the inner critic actually be your conscience? It’s not okay to tell the customers that something they’re depending on will not arrive when they expect. Those are actual lies,  and maybe you felt guilty. Telling the truth when an apology will go a long way in silencing your inner critic,  because you’ll feel better and stronger for being honest.

The person said that “the customer will get what they need regardless” offered you unhealthy advice.  Dishonesty generates more dishonesty, among others and ourselves.  You said you welcomed guidance,  so here goes: be honest with yourself when you lie.  Don’t coddle and make it cute.  Apologize when you make mistakes and learn from them.  Commit to honesty. All of that is part of growth and self care.